Let’s talk about boundaries. We all have them. Every one of us and when someone violates our boundaries repeatedly, it’s time to re-evaluate the relationship whether it is a family member or a significant other. That’s happened to me lately. I’ve had my boundaries violated so bad that I just don’t want anything to do with the person right now. It will take me time to get past it but I need that space to work on myself, expand past it, and above all undo all the damage the person has done to me and my progress.
I have come so far! Anyone following this blog can see how far I’ve come…Look at my oldest post and see how shy I was back then and look at me now! I DJ, I like to explore and learn new things, and I have made so many friends from the blogging and designing community. I love my sponsors, every one…even though I may leave a few to go learn something else from another one…I still love blogging for them all. I have a good man and I really enjoy my time with him. I cannot afford to let someone pull me back, suggesting I do things that are actually not good for me or my movement to the future.
Boundary Fence
There is this thing called the boundary fence that I’ve talked about in the past. This is a fence with windows (I know that sounds weird) that is surrounding you. Each window holds a piece of you…your past, your wishes, who you are as a person… you open one window and share that info with the person you are confiding in and wait to see what they do with it. Then you open up your heart more when you’re comfortable to share more info.
But as soon as your trust is betrayed or if they don’t use the information the way they should… i.e. using your past against you in a heat of an argument is one example of betraying your trust… Then it is perfectly okay to push that person outside of the boundary fence until you are ready to let them back in a little at a time. Regaining trust once it is lost can take a long time. It’s not an overnight process and the other person has to understand and respect this.
Anyway, Adventurites, have a wonderful day! I’ll see you next time! Check below for my credits and Flickr for a full resolution version. ~LA
Credits:
Head: GENUS Project – Genus Head – Classic Face W001 – v1.6 – Mocap
Body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
Skin: Spicy Bodyshop – Romy skin Medium – Genus Project (See full review here)
Eyes: Avi-Glam – Striking Eyes – Genus Applier – 12 RARE
Hair: TRUTH Hair – Athena
Lips: MILA – Sweet Lipgloss [Genus applier]
Tattoo: { Speakeasy } 6. Common Calm sleeve
Nails: WitchCraft – Vintage Nail Polish
Exclusive for Seven Event (fingers & toes) // Maitreya Only // Hud driven (6 colours)
Rings: Elle Boutique – Saffron Rings – Sponsor
Exclusive for FaMESHed. Opens May 1st noon SLT – May 26th
Jewelry: Flutters – Flutters Lariat Choker Beaded – Chapter Four – Sponsor
Outfit: Vanilla Bae Cecilia Jumpsuit (ADULT) – FaMESHed – Sponsor
Shoes: REIGN – Onyx Heels (Maitreya-High)- FATPACK
Pose: Lyrium – Purr series – Pose 4 – Pose Fair 2019 – Sponsor
Décor:
Lilith’s Den – Plastic Plant – Rose – Limitless – Sponsor
Apple Fall Coral Specimen
Apple Fall Books – Arrangement 2
Apple Fall Tied Books
West Village Ginkgo Branches
West Village Magnolia Arrangement
West Village Billy Ball Stems
West Village Heart Eucalyptus Spray
floorplan – arched window
JIAN Pudgy Persians 10. Siamese Wander Kitten
JIAN Kitten Collection :: FaMESHED Bonus Sitting Kitten
JIAN Scruffy Shepherds 9. Wanderer Melanistic
Soy – Wall art [Sea Echo]
Soy – Plaster Side Table
tarte. hanging planter
{what next} Bailey Rug #1
.peaches. Stand By You Pap V2 – Adult (unpacked)