Happy New Year! I hope everyone had great holiday season and got everything you wished for… I did. I’m not going to write a lot today because I wanted to participate in the 19 Questions Blogger Challenge while I listen to Charmed (the original version and some butterfly kisses :P). Well at least some of it. This is so long! I’ll do a few questions today and maybe a few more another day so it’s not so long. Here goes…
What does your vlog/blog name and meaning behind it?
When I first started this blog, I was just getting out of a very toxic relationship that involved mental abuse and manipulation. I was struggling to explore myself like my therapist wanted me to do and being unable to get out of the house often enough for it to matter. The way that I found around it was to create a blog (for my friends and family) to follow my explorations in SL. It became a diary of sorts with exploring posts about destinations in SL. I was looking for what I like and how I wanted to be. After a few years, I changed it up to a fashion blog and left the exploration posts behind.
How would you describe your vlog/blog (decor, fashion destinations, RP…)
I started out as just a diary and exploration blog, but after a few years, I started adding my fashion credits after a friend asked me what I was wearing. It was still a exploration blog and a diary or sorts. My first adventure was July 5, 2015. My first real fashion post was April 10, 2017… and it’s been a ride ever since from struggling with learning how to fashion blog to finding Blogger N Vlogger Network through a friend.
When did you start SL and what brought you to SL?
I started SL in September 2009 after a coworker was talking about getting married in a virtual game. I hadn’t played many games before that so thought I would try it out…
What inspired you to become a vlogger/blogger?
I kept seeing all the pretty pictures people were making with their stuff and I wanted to do that. Fashion photography allowed me to be creative and in return it allowed me to express what was going on in my mind. I could write about my day and write about the product and what the picture meant to me. I started vlogging because I was so shy I wouldn’t talk on voice. It was a way for me to practice talking on voice and putting it on a public forum. I want to do more videos in the future.
How Often do you post?
Up until last July, I was posting every other day… sometimes every day, but then my dad started getting sick, I started to burn out with everything going on around me, I started to slow down on my blog. Now I post once or twice a month. My resolution this year is to increase this to one post at minimum per week so I can express my stress through the stories in the pictures I create and write about what’s going on in my life, both inworld and outworld. That last was inspired in me by Tiffany Parkin.
What’s your favorite thing to blog and why?
OMG, I can’t decide. One of my favorite things to do is blogging décor with animals in the shot…I love butterflies so majority of the time, there’s a butterfly somewhere. I guess I don’t really know right now. Maybe that’s a goal for this year… figure out what my favorite is. 😛
How do you motivate yourself to stay active & fresh with your vlog/blog?
Lately, I’ve been struggling to do this. I’ve fallen into a little depression so it’s been hard to motivate myself. When I do start a post, I find I am inspired. It’s just a matter of kicking myself in the ass to push myself to get in gear. This year I hope to return full time again…
Would you say your avi is an introvert or extravert?
I don’t know about my avi, but I know for sure that I am an introvert. I would rather stay home (in both worlds) than go out to crowded places. But I also have social anxiety and agoraphobia too, so that might be part of it. I am better at this than I used to be…
How do you feel about SL relationships (romantic & friends)?
I think they are great… to an extent. I am in a romantic relationship with someone I have known for my whole SL time (about 9 years, I’ve been in SL for 10 years but we didn’t meet until 2011, but it wasn’t until 2016 that we really got to know each other). In the past though, with other men, I’ve been either abused or used. One relationship was brought into the real world and was an emotionally abusive train wreck that wasted five years of my life. So I am wary of relationships, in either world. They have to be something special for me to become involved anymore. Now I am with a good man who treats me with kindness and respect, something I rarely got in the past.
As for friendships, I think they are something that you make…you know the people who are true is the people who stay with you during your roughest times, lift you up (not tear you down), and tries to pull you out of your dark place. But also they are there when you are at your highest, when you are happy and carefree. They celebrate that with you. And in return you are the same to them. You are there for them in the rough times and in the good times. Not judging them for anything.
A true friend (and I am blessed to have many true friends), doesn’t put conditions on your friendship with them. They don’t tear you down if they hold a different belief than they do… or call you names, tell you that you are “self-absorbed” when you’re going through hell… they don’t judge. They love you unconditionally with no conditions placed on your friendship. I have been lucky to have friends like this. I’ve also been unlucky to have friends abandon me because they placed conditions on our friendship. Honestly, I am glad they are gone because this action shows me their character.
What is your guilty pleasure on SL?
Shopping… omg, gimme lindens and I’ll shop the day away, finding the sales and what not. I also love to decorate and landscape. One day I’ll do a post just with pictures of the house and land around it… if anyone is interested in seeing what I’ve done. 😛
What valuable advice would you give to a new vlogger/blogger?
Take it slow. Join Blogger N Vlogger network and go to the presentations. They are vastly useful. You can find their past presentations at their channel on YouTube.
What is your favorite SL memory?
When I met Tirza. I was just coming back from several months out of SL in 2015 and went to RFL weekend. She was a member of UFS so we were all walking around the track in our uniforms and having fun. We’ve been friends ever since. Indy, Tirza, Chez and myself… refer to ourselves as the Four Musketeers due to all of the mischief we got into that weekend. Chez no longer logs into SL and I rarely see Indy, but I keep up with Tirza… she’s awesome! ♥
What’s the craziest/wackiest/ strangest thing you’ve ever experienced on SL? Best?
Tirza and I put on Dinkie avatars and ran around SL playing with them. Very Silly and a lot of fun…She pulled out her “land surveying equipment” and surveyed the land as a dinkie surveyor while I ran around her in circles and sang. haha
What is the one thing you want everyone to know about your avi & vlog/blog?
My blog is really my journal. My fashion and décor posts are all part of that journal. As part of my journal, it really helps me to process some things going on in my life, but there are a few things you won’t find on my blog normally. Normally, I won’t talk politics or religion. Those are very personal beliefs and I don’t feel they belong on my blog.
Everyone has their belief system, so I wouldn’t want to interfere with their beliefs and feel like I’m pushing mine on them. People judge you solely on your political or religious beliefs and I don’t want to be judged that way. That is only one tiny piece of me… I am so much more. What you will find here is talk about my personal life in RL… little tidbits of what is happening with me. Also tidbits of what is happening in SL.
I tried to answer all of these questions but boy are some of them hard! I mean wow! Really deep questions. Have a great day, Adventurites! ♥ LA ♥
What I’m wearing:
Body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
Head: LeLutka Head Simone 3.4
Eye Appliers: Lefort by Revoul – Lechery Eyes / Lelutka Applier
Skin: League – Amaia – Lelutka Applier – Medium
Lipstick: alaskametro<3 “Bubblegum” lipgloss – applier HUD
Nails: Go Frock Yourself – Aztec Purple Nail Appliers
Hair: Wasabi Pills – Deanna Mesh Hair – B
Choker: amias – CARLYN pack
Necklaces: Vibing — Kinsley Necklace
Rings: Vibing — Melanie Rings — MAITREYA
Loungewear: MOoH! Nova outfit (socks included) – January 2020 Group Gift
Pose and Props: