I don’t normally talk about this side of my SL because, for one, it’s very personal and something that I think should be private, but this person that was talked about on FB yesterday and what he was doing to subs really bugged me. I am a sub. To be specific, I’m a babygirl. I enjoy the softer side of a Daddy Dom who treats me kindly and like his treasure. I’m not a spoiled brat or anything…I’m me. But I’m cared for very well and I love giving that control over to him. So when I saw this post on FB yesterday, it really bothered me. There were a lot of red flags from the person talked about in it, which is what brought on this post on my blog.
Respect vs the Idiot
To start with, any real Dom or Daddy Dom will never dominate a woman who is not his girl. He doesn’t treat women with disrespect, he treats them with respect. Respect in this kind of relationship helps with trust and trust is the deepest foundation of any relationship. You trust your Dom to treat you the way that you should be treated…as his princess. His babygirl or sub within the confines of your limits. You are his treasure and he treats you with kindness. He certainly doesn’t treat women he doesn’t know with misogyny and disrespect. And if that doesn’t describe it well, maybe this helps too. From my man:
There is a clear distinction between a “Dominant” and an “Idiot” in the Community.
A Dominant has earnt the respect of the person that “Chose” to be his submissive and has agreed upon terms of that relationship.
An Idiot demands respect, and treats people like they are trash, a piece of meat and with no respect for others.
What you will find with “The Idiot” is they have no idea what they are doing, they believe that a “master” is someone that can strut around and do what they wish.
“The Idiot” will also fail to grasp something that “The Dominant” knew from the start… They do not have the power.
“The Dominant” understands that power is given to him by “The Submissive” and that “The Submissive” can take that power away at any point.
“The Idiot” is just that…a fucking idiot.
So, if you find yourself talking to “The Idiot,” be very careful. Walk away from him. He’s not worth your time. As always, see below for my full credits and Flickr for the full resolution version! Laters, Adventurites! ~LA